In this episode, we meet “it” - a friend of the Hilarious Hypnotist currently in a high Master/slave BDSM protocol relationship with “its” Sir. Meeting years ago when Traci hosted an Erotic Hypnosis meeting at the local dungeon, “it” joins the conversation not only to share more about the Master/slave dynamic but to confront “its” problem expressing “its” desires…which “it” shouldn’t have at all!

The Master/slave dynamic is sometimes difficult for people to grasp. So to better clarify, below is a note from “it”:

"it" has been with Sir for 20+ years in many different dynamics. After much discussion together, "it" agreed, i.e. consented, to a CNC (consensual non-consent) relationship. The only way for "it" to get out of this relationship is: to die as His slave, beg for release, or be kicked to the curb. Those are obviously euphemisms for how any conventional relationship could end, but the attitudes attached to those phrases exemplify this dynamic. "it" is completely owned. "it" has no rights of a free person. "it" finds itself in a lowly position to all who are free in the Master/slave lifestyle. Using the 3rd person to refer to itself reinforces the principle of objectification. "it" is no more valuable than any other object that Lord owns. "it" embraces being Lord’s slave, to be worked & used at His discretion. The only respect "it" is given is for physical limitations because of "it's" age. Not only does "it" enjoy this status but "it" also relishes it. The reason "it" has chosen this life is because "it" is a confirmed feminist & believes any woman, or person, should be allowed & able to choose their own fate. "it" enjoys this life, because "its" Owner is an extremely worthy man of the highest ethic, whose BDSM lifestyle knowledge is only matched by His creativity. "it" relishes being Lord’s property because of the passionate, undying love Lord & "it" share for each other. "it" aspires to show "its" appreciation for Him, making "it" a priority in His life by being enthusiastically, absolutely obedient to His direction.

KEY POINTS:

- What is a Dominant-submissive relationship?

- Why “it” identifies as an object

- The need to choke the impulse to express “itself”

- Understanding self-care as being in a state of flow and receiving

- Being the ship versus being the water

- Is “it” a born dominant?

QUOTABLES:

“Everybody always writes off BDSM as whips and chains and pain and spankings and that sort of thing. But there's a softer side to the BDSM community, which is the Dominant-submissive side.”

“This is really the core of hypnosis. A lot of people who are thrown out of their wiring get depressed. When you got a natural leader, who's forced into taking orders from someone else for a living, they become depressed. If you get someone who would just much rather go with the flow and do what they're told, but now they have to lead, they get very, very tired.”