TRIGGER WARNING!!! This episode discusses BDSM, beatings, and self-harm, and possibly other issues that may trigger listeners/viewers who are sensitive to these topics. In this episode, Katie discusses a little more in depth about her connection with BDSM and that she and her Dom are into "impact play." Impact Play, for those not into BDSM, can range from light spankings to being beaten with an object. Traci has extensive experience with impact play, and explains that sometimes people get their pain and pleasure wires crossed. For most people, pain is pain, and pleasure is pleasure. Sometimes people find a relief or release in pain, and actively look for this "pleasure" in unhealthy ways, such as self-harm. Katie admitted to cutting herself, and Traci points out that the ways the self-harm is tied to self worth and pleasure. Traci then helps Katie break apart the ties to all of these, so she can still seek "pain/pleasure" and it's separate from self harm and self worth.

KEY POINTS:

Katie illustrates her childhood connection to pain = pleasure.

Katie identifies other triggers and memories she has regarding her childhood.

Traci explains how some people are wired a little different, that pain = pleasure instead of pleasure = pleasure.

Traci and Katie discuss self harm, self worth, and the pain / pleasure connection.

Traci gives Katie several techniques to help manage her "Switch Flips".

QUOTABLES:

"My belief is that you can embrace your wiring issue and find healthy ways to express it through BDSM."

"When you were born, you were neutral."

"Sucking up my whole life and getting my brain to be quiet seems like the better choice."

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on:

IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/

YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA

IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/

Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4